Bienvenida

Cada cliente es el cliente


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The cornerstone of representation is the honesty and commitment of the working relationship. Honesty is what you will get at the Law Offices of Tamarah Evanko Gay. 

People do not seek out legal help without knowing that they need good, honest and fair guidance. This is especially true in the realm of Family Law. Tamarah will always tell you the truth of what you face even when the truth is difficult. That is her commitment to you and your needs.

  At E- Gay Law you receive one on one attention.  Tamarah will guide you through your legal matters, but she will not treat you like a child unable to assist in your case.  She will work with you and ask that you do some work on your matter alongside the firm.  This cooperative work relationship not only gives you full access to your case, but keeps your hourly bill lower.  Further, Attorney Evanko-Gay will fight for you in and out of court.  She is not afraid to battle against the tide to get you the outcome you deserve.  However, she works diligently to gain a favorable outcome without destroying your world.   She will not advise you to fight over a $50 coffee table if it will probably cost you $200 in legal fees. Nor will she spend time avoiding the big battles which are necessary.  Sometimes the answer lies in retreat and regroup to come back a different way.  This is the "Art of War".

Honestidad es la clave


Manutención de los hijos

Ambos padres tienen la obligación de mantener a sus hijos. Los tribunales de Connecticut han decidido que las necesidades del niño están por encima de las de los padres individuales. La manutención pertenece al niño, no al padre con custodia o sin custodia. Los padres deben saber que la manutención de los hijos paga el alquiler/hipoteca del padre con custodia, la electricidad, Internet o el teléfono, y las necesidades generales del niño(s). Piense en la manutención de los hijos como un recipiente grande donde se colocan todos esos artículos. Usted, el padre que paga, pondrá ese dinero. El padre que no paga pondrá su cantidad y lo removerá. Ésa es la manutención del niño. No se trata solo de ropa, zapatos y cortes de pelo, como tampoco lo sería si vivieran a tiempo completo contigo.

Defensa de la orden de restricción

Las órdenes de restricción temporal no solo se dan a los hombres. Son solo una herramienta en el arsenal para proteger a una persona de daño físico o acoso. Es vital defenderse contra una orden de restricción injusta. Nunca te rindas porque es más fácil. Hay problemas que pueden surgir si tiene una orden de restricción en su contra. Hable con un abogado porque sus derechos futuros son importantes.

Divorcio / disolución

Es importante que las partes involucradas en una situación de divorcio comprendan y reciban la mejor representación. La representación no significa que un abogado vaya a hacer estallar a la oposición. Ese tipo de representación daña su vida porque después de que el personal legal se va, usted debe recoger los pedazos. Los mejores abogados de divorcio trabajan con sus clientes para encontrar una manera de desenredar el matrimonio, los hijos y la propiedad con el menor dolor posible.

Defensa DCF

El abogado Evanko ha representado a padres e hijos en el tribunal de asuntos juveniles. DCF Defense es un conjunto de habilidades especializadas. Es importante que los padres entiendan lo que está pasando y que nada es rápido cuando se trata de trabajar con el departamento.

Curador Ad-Litem

Un tutor - ad - litem o GAL es alguien que es capaz de representar los mejores intereses del menor. ¡No pueden ser contratados por los padres! Sin embargo, es importante trabajar junto con los padres y su familia para asegurar que el niño tenga el mejor resultado posible.

Support Enforcement

El tribunal de ejecución de manutención garantiza que el padre que no tiene la custodia contribuya a la salud y el bienestar de cada uno de sus hijos. También garantiza que los niños sean atendidos adecuadamente con los fondos que se entregan y comparten. Ambos padres deben satisfacer las necesidades de los niños que produjeron.

Coordinador de Coparentalidad

Trabajar con los padres ha sido una prioridad fundamental para mí y mi práctica. Los padres necesitan orientación tras los litigios y una forma de avanzar sin el gasto de un litigio continuo. La Coordinación de Crianza Compartida surge de esta necesidad. Trabajo con ambos padres para crear un ambiente de confianza constante donde la confianza no existe. En mi práctica de coordinación, los guío para que se escuchen sus voces individuales, pero también para que las necesidades de sus hijos estén presentes. Mi enfoque se centra en el aprendizaje estratégico para ambos padres. Trabajaremos en el manejo oportuno de temas problemáticos. Trabajaremos en la neutralidad y la comunicación segura, lo que conducirá a resultados respetuosos para la familia.


Tamarah Evanko Gay


Abogado titular

Tamarah es un orgulloso graduado de la escuela de derecho de la Universidad de Quinnipiac.


  • PO Box 612 Vernon, CT, Estados Unidos


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Divorce and Divorcing Families

The process of divorce means a permanent change in your life. It is a restructuring of your family unit that takes careful consideration. No matter how   Now that you have decided to get divorced life will never be the same again for you, your children, and your soon to be ex spouse.  This process can be just as hard on LGBTQ or Lifestyle people.  All of these issues make divorce a tricky subject nonetheless.  Let me help you through the process of starting over. 

 
For parents, divorce can bring about feelings of anger, shame, remorse, and fear. It is not only the parents who separate, but the children who also have to deal with the loss and confusion that divorce can bring about. It is imperative that divorcing or separating parents have a solid plan of action to allow as much of a normal life for the child as possible.  This can be done by structuring a parenting plan which focuses on the needs of the children and not just that of the individual parent.  Not every plan works for every family.  

 

I work on the principal that divorce is painful enough without resorting to ongoing fighting and back stabbing. My staff and I want for your family what you wanted when the marriage began, to have a happy life.

 

The goal of many parents should be the health and emotional welfare of their children. However, this is often not the case when fighting and accusations get in the way of the needs of the only innocent parties to the divorce. We at Evanko Law work to re-focus our clients on the life they want after the temporary trauma of the divorce process has ended. Whether it is the end of a toxic and volatile relationship or the amicable end of time together, we can help.

Call us at (860) 785-6013 or email us at tamarah@ctfamilylawyer.com or evankolaw@outlook.com for a Free 30 minute Consultation.


Stages of a Divorce

1. In Connecticut it takes 90 days from the time of filing to complete a divorce. Around the 91st day you will return to court and if completely ready then the parties can get a final hearing on the dissolution. During those 90 days the couple must either come to an agreement on all the personal issues to be able to divorce on the 91st day or at your Case Management Date. If the parties are not in agreement on all or most of the issues then they will have to leave those issues for the court to decide.

2. When it comes to division of property, custody of children, or support it is always better for those who know the situation best to make the decisions. We at Evanko Law work with you and your ex-partner (as best as possible) to ease your transition and guide you in this often complicated and overwhelming process.

3. The court cost will be $360. The fee for service usually costs about $65.


4. Each parent may apply for custody of their child, which is done at the beginning of the case. However, if they cannot come to an agreement on their own, it is up to the courts to make a decision. The state of Connecticut will decide based on the best interest of the child. Should the parents not be able to decide the Court will often ask "family relations" to assist OR a party OR the court may request the assistance of a GAL (guardian ad litem).

Each parent will be required to attend a parenting class which at present runs approx. $125.

5. Parents must not forget all of the small decisions which if not handled now may cause trouble in the future.  Some of those are:
  1.   how their children will be raised and if there is a remarriage
  2.   how the children will be involved in the lives of future siblings
  3.   what happens if a parent needs to move for work.
  4.  Now, even the cost of secondary education is a question that parents must consider.
    1. Questions like: Which parent will pay for college and how much? Should each parent be required to put money into a college savings, if so how much?
 
Often for divorcing parents this is not a consideration. Would you want to leave those questions open?

6. Community property must be settled during the divorce process. This includes real estate whether purchased during the marriage or prior, vehicles, antiques, jewelry, heirlooms, etc.

At the final hearing on your divorce, Evanko Law wants to be sure that you have settled all the elements which could be settled and ensure that you can move on with your life by getting a fresh start.



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What does a Parenting Coordinator Do?
We are the bridge between the struggle of parents who are trying to coparent.  We are able to help you to make decisions without continual back and forth which has stymied your attempts previously.
Key Responsibilities and Scope
  • Conflict Resolution & Mediation: Acting as a mediator to resolve day-to-day disputes, such as scheduling, school, or medical decisions, often when parents are unable to agree on their own.
  • Implementation of Parenting Plans: Assisting in the interpretation and enforcement of existing custody orders or agreements.
  • Decision-Making Authority: Depending on the court order, a parenting coordinator may be authorized to make binding recommendations or decisions for the parents.
  • Education: Teaching co-parenting skills, educating parents on child development, and improving communication techniques.
  • Limitations: Parenting coordinators cannot typically change legal custody status or make major modifications to the overall time-sharing plan, and they do not act as therapist, attorney, or evaluator
  • Who Needs a Coordinator?
    • Parents who cannot communicate without anger or aggression
    • Parents who find coming to a resolution difficult
    • Parents who need someone to assist them in making difficult decisions for their children, but do not want the expense of going back to court
    • Parents who want to remain child centric in their approach to coparenting 
    • Those who have tried all the "Court" things and still are not succeeding
Is a Coordinator Just another cost?
No, A coordinator is not just another cost.  I am here to assist you and your ex to gain positive skills.  My goal and purpose is to teach both of you how to communicate better and how to decision make.  I work with you to create parenting plans or adjust the plans you have.  I also work with you both the ensure that whatever the plan you have it you would be able to make changes as needed without having to seek the assistance of anyone else.  That is effort and it takes time.  If you are going to learn then you have to practice and you practice with someone who has the skillset to teach.  You cannot learn a language from someone who does not speak it themselves.  As a family attorney, I speak the language and I can guide you and your ex in a manner which creates space for you both to feel heard and accepted.



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Handling a Family Court Delay /Custody Battle during
Covid-19 Pandemic
2020
  

What is the Coronavirus

  • The coronavirus is part of a group of viruses which cause a host of respiratory illnesses.  The common cold is a version of the coronavirus.  So, the word corona stands for any virus within a group or classification.  Other viruses like SARS.  According to the CDC website Coronaviruses are a large family of viruses that are common in people and many different species of animals, including camels, cattle, cats, and bats. Rarely, animal coronaviruses can infect people and then spread between people such as with MERS-CoV, SARS-CoV, and now with this new virus (named SARS-CoV-2).

  • Where did the virus come from anyway?
  • Well according to the CDC the virus began in Wuhan China.  Early on, many of the patients at the epicenter of the outbreak in Wuhan, Hubei Province, China had some link to a large seafood and live animal market, suggesting animal-to-person spread. Later, a growing number of patients reportedly did not have exposure to animal markets, indicating person-to-person spread. (CDC website).






Overview of the Court COOP plan.
The COOP plan from the court has been laid out.  It determined that only priority 1 business shall be allowed to go to court until March 27th. An evaluation shall be done during that time to see how court cases may continue.  Most cases are moved and rescheduled by the courts.


Statement from Judge Patrick L. Carroll III
Chief Court Administrator
March 12, 2020
The Judicial Branch today implemented various measures as a result of concern over the spread of the COVID-19/coronavirus and in recognition of the public health emergency declaration Governor Lamont issued.  It is also important to note, in the clearest terms possible, that the courts of the State of Connecticut are open and will remain open.  
These measures are:
 Under the terms and provisions of the Judicial Branch’s Continuity of Operations Plan (COOP), commencing Monday, March 16, 2020, and continuing through March 27, 2020, the courts will schedule and hear only those matters identified as “Priority 1 Business Functions.”  
 
The following matters are Priority 1 Business Functions: o Criminal arraignments and domestic violence arraignments;
 o Juvenile detention hearings;
o Family orders of relief from abuse;
 o Civil orders of relief from abuse
 o Civil protection orders
o Ex parte motions
 o Orders of temporary custody
o Orders to appear
 o Emergency ex parte order of temporary custody
 o Juvenile detention operations for detainees held for juvenile court
 o Termination of parental rights
 o Domestic violence victim notification
 o Civil and family capias mittimus execution and bond reviews
 
 With the exception of jury trials already in progress and criminal jury trials necessitated by the filing and granting of a speedy trial motion, all jury trials, civil and criminal, are suspended for the next 30 days.
Consistent with guidance offered by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the Connecticut Department of Public Health, these measures are being taken to reduce the number of people entering our courthouses in an effort to mitigate the potential for spreading of the virus.
OK…. I Read This Now What Does It Mean?
For you in particular, this means that your case will not be heard in the near future.  Any cases scheduled would be marked OFF (off the calendar) by the Court.  This is the same as the court filing a continuance on its own.  The reschedules dates will have to be adjusted based on your time, time of the opposition and any attorneys involved.  If you have any scheduled meetings with family relations, then please call them and see if they will be moved also.
Parents should limit transfers in crowded public places.  Social distancing is being requested by the doctors of the U.S.  Social distancing is labeled as remaining six feet or two meters from one another.  It is important that you and your opposition use best practices when dealing with exchanges.  Wash the hands of the kids (carry baby wipes) when they come or go.  Explain to the other parent that you are not saying anything bad about them, but that you are being supportive of your child’s health.  Remind your children to wash often and try to not touch their faces a lot. 
For those whose visitation was in the community and your location is now closed.  The weather is improving, so parks are often an option. If you need to be indoors seek out public restaurants and sometimes even grocery stores have table for your to meet.  Malls are not a great location for social distance practicing.
Sick Children: When a child is sick and it is time for parenting swaps, it is often difficult to decide whether to send the child or not.  Should you keep a child at home if sick?  The answer to that question depends on the ailment of the child.  If the child has a simple cold, stomachache, headache or minor digestive issues; then parenting time should remain as scheduled.  The other parent can often handle these minor issues themselves.  Remember that you would want the other parent to treat you with the same respect.
The child who is sick with a fever, throwing up, diarrhea or possibly has coronavirus should not be transferred.  Phone the other parent and ensure that they know what is happening with your child.  Promise to keep them informed of progress of the illness.  If this is needed then the parent should take the child to the doctor as soon as possible.  This concept and plan is often supported by the court judges.  This can be difficult if a parent is known to fake illnesses. 
As for parents getting sick or getting the Covid-19…
It is my opinion that if the parent comes up sick with the virus, then the other parents should follow any isolation protocols which the government has established.  The isolation at the writing of this memo is the following.  Self-induced isolation should be followed for fourteen days.  If the person shows no signs of getting ill (sore throat, sudden fever, breathing difficulties) then they may leave isolation.  If the ill parent has been at home then the child should remain away from them until they have had three tests of negative for the virus.  This 3 testing is what has been put in place based on the CDC recommendations. The child should be able to skype, DUO and use other ways of being together without contact closer than six feet away.  This is hard to do, but necessary to control the spread of the virus.
What about the custody
Many of you are still in the midst of deciding custody with the person who is the other person.  I am working with the opposition in your case to settle your case and keep progress going on the matter.  In some cases this work is done with the attorney on the other side.  In other cases, this work is done with the opposition and doing a non-traditional mediation.  The courts’ restriction for cases make it impossible to handle any contempt matters.  Those matters will be dealt with when the courts return to the normal practice.  When you have issues which require assistance please text or email problems and I will assist when and where I am able. 
Please continue to keep your schedule as you have done for the last few months.  Unless you have an agreement to otherwise make changes; your kids lives should remain the same. 
Home Preparation
I am writing this part to advise you on home preparation.  You should be prepared to work from home, if available.  Many schools have already closed and many more are going to close.  When they will reopen is questionable.  So below is a list of items that general prepared people should have on hand.
Medication: if you can get medication in 90 day supplies then by all means get those.  If you are typically slow in renewal of the medications, then now is the time to get the renewal.  Make sure children’s medications are up to date and have asthma meds in both homes.  If you have trouble with this than call the doctors and they will order you double to medication to split.  Make sure that the children take the medications. 
Food:  Make sure that the food you have is not expired.  We all keep food past the expiration date.  We buy things which we intend to eat, but do not get around to it.  This is the good time to clean and restock.  Once you restock what should you use?  Make sure that you have non-perishable food you will actually eat.  Do not worry about the food that you believe will be good.  Rice and beans are great, but only if you are actually going to eat rice and beans every day.  Buy things that will have lots of good nutrients.  This is not the time to stock up on snack foods for the kiddos. 
Fruit: long lasting fruits and vegetables are great.  Make sure that you get canned, jar, or other items as needed for three weeks of 3 meals a day.
Canned:  Beans are a good source of protein and can be good, but only if you will eat them.  Canned fish, meats, chicken are all good opportunities to make meals and that have protein. 
Others:
Seeds, nuts, and other items of the like can be added to meals or as good long-term snacks.   Cheese, milk, eggs should all be a part of the amounts needed. Please remember that you should stock the things you will eat.
Conclusion:
I am available to assist you in the coming days.  I will be following the same state recommendations for distancing.  I will no longer be shaking hands, giving hugs (which I am known to do).  I can be reached by phone at 860-785-6013 by text at the same number.  I can have video conferencing and mediation between the parties.  I will be limiting in person meetings for the foreseeable future, but I am in no way disappearing.
Be safe and God Bless
Tamarah Gay